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Sometimes it’s best to take your time…

// February 3rd, 2010 // 8 Comments » // Advice, Life

Remember the last time you rushed something and the outcome didn’t turn out the way you expected? Sometimes we need to give ourselves some extra time to ensure we are satisfied. Do you remember a homework assignment that you wish you would have spent more time on? I sure do, but now I take my time on the things I do. I like to live a cool, calm lifestyle, which is ironic in this fast-paced world we live in. Just try it out. Do things slow. What’s the need to rush things? Chances are you’ll regret it later and wish you would have thought things through or spent more quality time…

There will always be somebody who’s better than you…

// October 14th, 2009 // 1 Comment » // Advice, Life

so get used to it! Seriously, competition is what makes people work harder. People need motivation to get their ass moving, I am one of them. I’m a swimmer and I’ve been swimming since I had a brain. I’m pretty sure I was swimming in my mom’s womb and I hope I had a brain then. I couldn’t do flip turns or anything, but I was still technically swimming.

No matter how hard I practiced, there would always be somebody who swam faster than me.  Those kids may have been faster than me, but I could probably own them in Halo or COD4 or even help them with diving. They suck at diving, so we would be able to help each other out.

Make me feel tiny, if it makes you feel tall.

Throughout my life I noticed that there will always be someone who gets some crazy ego-high when they realize that they are bigger, taller, or smarter than you. However, they usually don’t realize that you are probably better than them at something else that they suck at.  It only takes time for the idiot to realize that before they walk away or try to be friends with you. Hopefully they realize that you can trade skills so both of you can benefit.  This happened to me a couple of times.

Don’t feel sad that someone is better than you because you are better than someone at something else too =D. Be proud that you realized you’re better at something than someone, but don’t be a douche. Use you’re skills to help people because they can help you as well. Everyone has different skill sets. If you’re good at math, I’m sure someone with a physical education major might need your help.  In addition, that (probably) athletic person may teach you a few tips or tricks about sports. I’m not being stereotypical, but it’s true. Not everyone is good at everything, but there will always be someone better than you and worse than you so be willing to help out! Don’t be a douche.

If my point isn’t clear yet, I’ll try and spell it out. People will always be w-o-r-s-e  than you are. So, be willing to help them out because  (almost in every case) they can  help  you out with something else as well. This reminds me of the t.v. show “Beauty and the Geek”.  The girls are very outgoing and social, but aren’t too smart or well-rounded about other parts about life, such as computers.  However, the geeks know computers and technology as if all humans should be preprogrammed to know how to operate them. They trade their knowledge with the girls on how to use computers and other concepts and in return the girls help them get woman. I would teach a girl how to blog anyday =D. Luckily, I don’t need help getting dates, at least I think so.  =D Not everyone is so lucky though….

Think about people in poverish such as in Africa. Those of us in America are (by chance) more fortunate than others around the world. So, if you’re not a douche, you should take time and help those who are worse than you. Assume they will do the same if you were inverted in their world. There is this site called FreeRice.com that will help feed those less fortunate, those who live in worse standards than us. Sometimes I am a believer of Karma, so if you do a good deed for somebody, expect one back sooner or later. It’s bound to happen! Is it karma or chance or coincidence? It doesn’t matter, keep in mind that there will always be someone who’s better than you or worse than you. Trade skills and expand your horizons =D.

It is your social responsibility to be cool to those “under” you. You would expect the same if you were in their shoes, right?

Please comment, it motivates me to blog more.  It lets me know that somebody is actually reading this stuff.

Know Your Rights!

// October 4th, 2009 // 4 Comments » // Advice

This is stuff you don’t learn in school so I would say this is pretty important to read.  As a citizen you have more rights than you think, even after the Patriot Act. Sometimes we get pulled over for by accident or simply because we were at the wrong spot at the wrong time.

1. Don’t speak more than you need to. You are only required to tell the officer your name only (and that’s not in all states)  if you are being arrested, ticketed, or driving. And you still don’t have to talk, you just show the cop your I.D. and that plastic card does all the talking for you! You are also not required to answer any of the police’s questions. Simply decline to answer. Grow a pair and say “I don’t want to answer this question.” The police will look at you suspiciously and might start to get a little upset. This is the most important part: don’t be rude and don’t start to get physical. This is where you can get charges against you. You cannot be punished for refusing to answer a questions. It’s as simple as that. It’s your constitutional right to remain silent.  Stay cool, calm, and collected. =D

2. Deny any searches or house entries! The cops have no right to do this. But  if this happens, simply say, in a voice loud enough for witnesses to hear, something like, “With all due respect, officer, I don’t consent to your entering my house/searching my car.” But, do not become belligerent or physically confrontational. Again this is where they can put charges against you. Now, from personal experience I’ve been asked by a cop to search my car, I said “No, I am running late. I need to be going soon.” He then asked “Why, do you have something to hide?” haha this is a trick pulled by cops all the time. It’s about psychology! They are trying to make you feel guilty to try and make you surrender to prove yourself. Don’t let this effect your concept of thinking! Say no, not without a warrant. I’ll make it clear, I did the research and the only way a cop can get into a house is a) they have a search or arrest warrant b) they have probable cause such as if a person is screaming inside the house or if there is a fire and c) if you let them in!  So don’t do it! Usually cops will approach the front door of a house they think might be having a party, a person will answer the door and the cops will say something along the lines of “Is everything ok? We want to come to make sure everything is safe. Is that alright?” Just say no! I do not give consent for you to enter. Or simply say “no thank you.” Close the door, make sure it is not open. They are allowed to come in if the door is open too.  Another thing I might add here is if you are caught by a cop on the sidewalk or outside your house. Another trick they like to use before they arrest you or even after, they ask if you are cold (if you need a sweater) or if you need anything inside your house. They will follow you and pause briefly outside and if you make no notice of them or do not stop them, they will assume they are invited to your house and then they are allowed to search it!

3. Don’t Run, Touch, Or Resist Last but not least, do not run away from the cops. Be smart. Running from the cops will just make things soooooo much worse. Resisting arrest is an automatic felony! Which means at least one year in a state jail minimum. =X Don’t touch the cop, they will say it’s assault instantly.

That’s all for now, but I may be updating this post. Please comment!

Life is unfair and it’s not fair that it is unfair.

// September 21st, 2009 // 2 Comments » // Advice, Life

While I’m stuck reading Shakespeare’s Richard III For my English class, I was at my college’s bookstore and found this. I was like So not fair right!? At least their classes book is in modern English! Sometimes I think that unfairness is synonymous to injustice because there is usually proof of wrong doing. I felt like this professor is not teaching at the college level so I asked my professor about it and she laughed. She said this is the fourth time somebody has asked me about this topic. In the end, despite the easy reading material, the class is much, much harder as the class objective is to write a small non-fiction novel.

I just came out of a math class and we had a test today. People finished after about 15 minutes, while it took me close to 30 minutes.  Life isn’t fair =( So I’m writing advice =)

1. Life isn’t supposed to be fair. I don’t think life owes us anything; it is up to the individual to get what he/she desires, to follow our dreams and to turn them into reality. If you complain, don’t expect results without effort on your part. Those who complain, it’s like driving into a dead end street. Once you can’t move forward, stop and think of solutions or actions for your problems, then you will be safe to reverse.  The point is, don’t complain because you won’t get anywhere. You want to progress in life and not get yourself stuck by complaining.  Think of solutions and plan and act upon them!

2. Fairness is subjective. Just because you think something is not fair that it truly is. This is when you should try to think with your brain and not with your feelings. When you say or think something is unfair, ’step into the other person’s shoes’. The point is, don’t always think you’re right. Some people may say it’s better to be tall, while others will say it’s better to be short. Be willing to work with others and after that experience, decide later whether you still think you’re right or if something is still fair. When working with others, keep in mind, that negative emotions, such as anger, will slow you down, while positive emotions, such as as optimism or caring, will get you moving forward!

All in all, realize that life will not always be in your favor. Only those who are balanced and realize that things will not always go as they would like can experience peace and happiness. Those who realize that storms will break, fires will rage, and tragedies will descend will go the furthest in life.

How To Give a Good Compliment

// September 14th, 2009 // 4 Comments » // Advice

Nothing else in the world can mimic a good compliment’s warm, body-lifting feeling. Instead of waiting to receive your day’s compliment, why not give one out. You’ll be sure to get some in return. Not all compliments are verbal, some are non-verbal.  A simple ‘full-body up-down glimpse’ is an example of a non-verbal compliment.  The other person indeed was checking you out, but did not gather enough balls to spill the beans. Whenever I see  a girl do this to me, I usually stare back in the eyes and either smile or deliver a good compliment. Girls love to be flattered. They can’t help it even if they wanted to.

1. Make a non-generic compliment. Say something specific. Don’t say you look nice, well you can, but there are better ones you can say. Girls are obsessed with their hair, so say ‘nice hair’.

2. Say something more. The more specific you are, the better. It makes them feel, I think, as if you indeed noticed them. So maybe say something like ‘nice necklace, it matches your dress so beautifuly. or nice necklace, are those real diamonds!?, or nice necklace, those diamonds are hurting my eyes!’ or nice necklace, its perfect for your outfit.’ As you can see the more clever or funny you can be the more your compliment will stand out and they will be feel more confident about themselves.

3. The whole point of compliments is to be more friendly with a person, to start a discussion (hopefully). So follow up your compliment with a question. ‘nice necklace, it matches your outfit by the way so perfectly. Where did you get it?’ Now, even though we might not really care where they got the necklace, it’s just a matter of seconds before discussion starts. Who knows, maybe you both shop at the same store!

Now with compliments, don’t go over the top because then it looks like you’re too desparate and you’re clueless. Don’t go over the top with your compliments either because they will think you’re a freak. So don’t say ‘holy shit, nice necklace! It’ matches the pixels of your retina so nicely….’  And if you want others to accept your compliments, you must be confident with them and be sincere. There are only certain times when you would want to laugh such as ‘haha, we both have the taste in style’ Again, don’t laugh like a freak or over do it.

What do you think? I have no proof of what i’m talking about, but with my experience in life this is usually how compliments work. COMMENTS PLEASE.